Therefore, to keep me from becoming overly proud, I was given a thorn in my flesh, a messenger from the Adversary to pound away at me, so that I wouldn’t grow conceited.
There is an idea that if the Father is truly sovereign, then all that comes to pass must do so by His decree. This is a difficult teaching for some. I struggle with it as well, but it does help me to see suffering as a part of my journey in life. Growth always comes through straining and striving of some sort. Without tension nothing would progress. I believe we are all a path to becoming who we truly are and HaShem gifts us with trials to aid us on our way. We have to give our best and be thankful for what befalls us.